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    Please help me quit smoking

    Hello Darebees!
    Please give me some advice/tips on how to permanently quit smoking. I've quit three years ago, but started to smoke again about one year ago. From then I smoke for few weeks and quit for few weeks. I know it is stupid (smoking is stupid and going back to smoking after quitting is also very stupid), but I just can not force myself to not smoke.
    My wife is also smoking (but she always has an excuse why she would not quit) so I have access to cigarettes all the time. Furthermore, when I go to the grocery store, she asks me to buy some cigarettes for her!
    Does any of you had the same problem and know how to quit? Smoking does affect my workouts, but it's obvious. I really want to quit, I am almost mentally ready, but I have opportunities all around. I am mad at myself, I know it is not good for my health, but I just can not quit!
    Please give me some advice or some motivation.

    #2
    One thing that helped me the most was seeing myself as non-smoker. When someone would ask me had I quit or do I smoke, I would answer with "I don't smoke". Not "I can't smoke" or "I quit", which always felt like something connected my identity with smoking. Of course, living alone helped me a lot because I didn't have access to cigarettes all the time, but I was still surrounded by people who smoked all the time. For the last 10-11 months, my lover even keeps a pack of cigarettes at my apartment so he would always had a backup in case he forgets to bring his own, and it doesn't even tempt me.

    So, long story short, identifying myself as non-smoker (again) was the one thing that helped me the most. And not counting how many days have passed since the last cigarette.

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      #3
      Try these:

      - Bad Habits: How to End Them
      - A Simple Way to Break a Bad Habit
      - What You Get Inside Yourself When You Smoke

      Try to re-label "smoking" into something utterly disgusting, repelling and off-putting - "poison inhaling", "self-destroying from within", "lungs burning", "cancer developing". Each time you have an urge to smoke, recall your new label and visualise it as vividly as you can. This should give you a nice de-motivation. As for the motivation, focus on how well you feel when you don't smoke, on the progress you're making (if you decide to reduce your habit cigarette by cigarette). And, of course, find people who'd be able to support you - hanging around smokers will urge you to put a cigarette in the mouth, while hanging around people leading a healthy, bad-habit-free lifestyle will encourage and motivate you to stop smoking yourself.

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        #4
        It's terrible that your wife isn't supportive. I'd tell her to buy her own cigarettes, if she wants to keep smoking that much.

        I quit 8 years ago (I just realized it's been that long!) and once I stopped, I realized that smoking was giving me panic attacks. Every time I'd get the urge to smoke, or feel stressed out and "needed" a smoke, I reminded myself that it was the addiction talking.

        I made sure I still got breaks at work and would still go outside and maybe take a short walk. I still like that "away" feeling I get when leaving a room.

        Finally, after I'd gone a week without smoking and broke down and had one, I thought, "I ruined all my progress. For what? This nasty thing?" and that was the beginning of the end.

        Good luck to you, and keep on keeping on!

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          #5
          gimp ... several people have mentioned "the elephant in the room". Your wife's smoking.
          You need to start by saying "no" when she asks you to buy cigarets for her. She may very well say "you don't love me" or "you don't support me" or some such. You will need a reasonable come-back - better than "why do you want me to die young?"
          Once you have established that, you need to ask her to not smoke around you, or perhaps even in the house. Before you even think about asking this, get yourself a very white cloth. When she argues the point, rub the cloth over a hard surface. It should come away dirty! Show her the grime. Offer to clean up the rest of the tobacco soot if she will promise to not deposit more.
          Do not try to get her to quit, too. Can't have two of you tearing up the furniture at once. She's likely to get the idea on her own.

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            #6
            Thanks for the good words. I am really in a mood for quitting. I saw the videos that Heisenberg linked - thanks! It sure will help me.
            Keep your fingers crossed, this time I will win!

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              #7
              I can't really add to what has already been recommended, but I wanted to chime in and say GOOD LUCK!! I'm sure you are going to kick this habits butt!!

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                #8
                Just to let you know, from July 10th I had quit! With success!
                Keep your fingers crossed (if anyone is crossing his fingers) - I am on a good way!
                Thanks!!

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                  #9
                  Good job gimp! You made the right decision

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                    #10
                    Mr. Octopus thanks!

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                      #11
                      Since you're already so far along let me give you a piece of advice to keep you from temptation.
                      Have your wife get an e-cigarette. They are not healthy, but they are 90% less harmful than regular cigarettes. Plus she will always have hers with her so when she is out you do not have access to her nicotine.

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                        #12
                        Well I don't know if it's going to help but here what helped me (and I hope it still does). Last week I had my birthday, turned 21. Don't know if it was a coincidence or not, but the day before I had the last cigarette in my pack. Anyway, I was taking a shower and somehow a thought sparked into my mind like somebody else was talking saying "Do yourself a favor this time, as a birthday gift, and stop smoking" Don't know how or why, but my will power rised. It's been 1 week and a half, and I have lost any desire for smoking. What I am trying to say is, find the strength inside you and say "Hell no!". Some people say it's difficult cause it's the nicotine addiction or it's because you see other people or friends around you smoking etc. Actually, it's a simple choice. Trust me, believe in yourself that you don't need it and you won't even realise that it's not in your life.

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                          #13
                          Thanks for all the replies.
                          To be honest, I did exactly the same like lionheart95 did. I have made a birthday gift to myself!
                          But unlike him, I was preparing for this moment for few long weeks. But I made it. My wife also had quit and now we are on the right track!

                          Thanks again!
                          Regards

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                            #14
                            Well done, Gimp!

                            I quit around three weeks ago. Unfortunately I gave into temptation on Sunday and Monday of this week.

                            So I'm quitting again! If you want to share the journey I'd be happy to post here with you.

                            I've found the Joel Spitzer videos on YouTube useful. They're very straight forward and to the point.

                            Take it easy, Gimp, you can do this!

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                              #15
                              Good job Gimp, if my father can quit after smoking for 55+ years anyone can. Hopefully it doesn't take emphysema and open heart surgery for you to stick to it.

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