Dealing with life

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    Dealing with life

    I found out that someone I know and think highly of did something kind of illegal. That triggered a stress reaction which makes me drink coffee and eat chocolate all day.
    besides the bad day (and it is bad though it's not directly related to me) I realized I don't know how to handle stress in a healthy way. I need to work on that.

    #2
    Originally posted by Amirsh View Post
    I realized I don't know how to handle stress in a healthy way.
    Few people can.

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      #3
      Any way to communicate that the behavior stresses you out without implying you are trying to control their behavior? I had a video game relapse for about a week recently and just have to do whatever it takes to get present again and stay there. This includes making lists of things I want to do, talking to people I trust, listening to motivational stuff, and really focusing on self care as a foundation despite the turbulence (including workouts).

      If speaking up isn't really feasible try to find a way to focus your time on other people and your own improvement. I'm trying to figure this all out also.

      Also therapy has helped me out of my darkest times and I'll probably keep up with it forever.

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        #4
        Amirsh I know it can be disappointing but people are human beings, they are flawed. Try not to let your expectations stress you that much

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          #5
          Originally posted by Ryuji View Post
          Amirsh I know it can be disappointing but people are human beings, they are flawed. Try not to let your expectations stress you that much
          Thanks, you're right but I can't really help myself - it takes a lot of time of saying to yourself "that's what people are like, it's not that bad, it has nothing to do with me"... . Really almost anything stresses me out. He might not have actually done it but it's still a nasty situation to be in.

          I did distract myself with other other stuff oneironaut me related but it doesn't help that his face are in the news. He either did it and then I feel bad for him or he didn't and that makes me scared to think about what kind of people he works for.

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            #6
            I'm definitely morally flexible

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              #7
              Most people are.

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                #8
                But they pretend they don't

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                  #9
                  Well, it's not easy to admit.

                  By the way, if you want to know if a person really believes in a rule he/she publicly promotes... ask them what they would do if said rule applied to their loved ones.

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                    #10
                    Yeah, I tried that one on myself Redline . No animal testing still applies for me. A lot of other "principles" crumpled long ago however.

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                      #11
                      I think that's a pretty normal development when becoming more and more adult

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                        #12
                        Yes and no Nihopaloa . Some people have really sheltered lives or have not been in a situation that was a moral blur or just enjoy watching people suffer as they, do the "right" thing. I guess it depends on someone's personality traits also. I don't know.

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                          #13
                          Life will give you (unfair) beatings, relentlessly in my opinion.
                          I don't think you should feel bad for what you do while you're on the receiving end of it.

                          I think how you come out of it, once all is said and done, that makes you the person you are.



                          I guess what I want to say is; Be flexible and nice to yourself when things are tough. Be aware of what you are allowing yourself to do / be.
                          Be strong about things when it's over, and switch off the leniency when you know you no longer need it. We like to stay in positions of comfort, even in good times, but it's not always what we need then.

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