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    Its so difficult to find work in ZAR. Me and my husband have been searching since September 2018. Our funds are running low. We lost it all. All we have is our personal belongings. Okay, my grandfather has been kind in allowing us to stay with him, in the home I grew up in.

    It's tough though. We're not really living right now. Every day is the same. We sit at home watching TV all day, since we don't have the funds to do anything.

    I've applied to some remote jobs, all I can do is hope something will come through.

    My husband is a lot older than me, he's 58 and regardless of the mountains of experience he has, and his excellent health, he just can't find work.

    I'm at a stage where I'm just not into getting out of bed in the morning - because "ugh, another day". Even though I do get up and go about the routine. I feel like I'm just...existing, not living. I feel like I have chronic low-grade sadness going on.

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    That sounds really tough. Unemployment is a really hard situation. But I am glad that you have a caring grandfather and you and your husband are in good health! A close friend of mine is in a similar situation. Some days she experiences similar feelings as you describe. On others she says she „pretends to be busy“: She writes a daily plan and sticks to it. Her funds are limited. She made a list with things that are for free and chooses from that list. I don‘t remember everything but here are some of the things: Workout, Yoga, Meditation, Singing/Music, Dancing, Reading (if you have a library nearby), Playing games with friends/family, free online courses (Coursera for example), voluntary work, Writing, Origami (she does it with every kind of paper).
    Most importantly: Don‘t give up!
    We are here for you!

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      #3
      I don't know what to say. This must be really tough for all.

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        #4
        Having also known unemployment, this is really tough... I hope your tries for remote work can work out, and that an employer sees the value of your husband's experience .... You two will be in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs...

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          #5
          Do I remember it right that you are a writer? Have you published something?

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            #6
            It sounds like things are objectively tough right now and maybe depression is creeping in to compound the situation. I'm a fan of therapy (it really helped me get out of the "ugh, another day" mentality that was crushing my will to live). Tough to do therapy if you can't get it supported through health care but maybe you have some options.

            Try to check in at the end of each day about what you've accomplished and celebrate all contributions to your own self care. Hang in there and make sure your bases are covered: personal hygiene, your space is clean, your food is good, and then fitness. When things get stressful it can be natural to help everyone first; make sure you get your own oxygen mask on each day before getting into worrying about others and the stresses of unemployment (easier said than done). You can build yourself back up and break out and every tiny step forward helps.

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              #7
              Originally posted by Kaleo View Post
              Do I remember it right that you are a writer? Have you published something?
              You do remember correctly, but nothing is published yet, since I can't afford an editor. So my debut has been shelved. I still want to get started on my next book, but although I want to, I don't have the "willpower" for it.

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                #8
                Originally posted by PetiteSheWolf View Post
                Having also known unemployment, this is really tough... I hope your tries for remote work can work out, and that an employer sees the value of your husband's experience .... You two will be in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs...
                Thank you!

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                  #9
                  Originally posted by Kaleo View Post
                  That sounds really tough. Unemployment is a really hard situation. But I am glad that you have a caring grandfather and you and your husband are in good health! A close friend of mine is in a similar situation. Some days she experiences similar feelings as you describe. On others she says she „pretends to be busy“: She writes a daily plan and sticks to it. Her funds are limited. She made a list with things that are for free and chooses from that list. I don‘t remember everything but here are some of the things: Workout, Yoga, Meditation, Singing/Music, Dancing, Reading (if you have a library nearby), Playing games with friends/family, free online courses (Coursera for example), voluntary work, Writing, Origami (she does it with every kind of paper).
                  Most importantly: Don‘t give up!
                  We are here for you!
                  Thank you - I have some hobbies. Reading, coloring, writing. But sometimes I don't have the will to do them either. Its so weird - I want to do something because I'm sick of doing nothing - then I'm like, nah. I'm too tired.

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                    #10
                    Originally posted by oneironaut View Post
                    It sounds like things are objectively tough right now and maybe depression is creeping in to compound the situation. I'm a fan of therapy (it really helped me get out of the "ugh, another day" mentality that was crushing my will to live). Tough to do therapy if you can't get it supported through health care but maybe you have some options.

                    Try to check in at the end of each day about what you've accomplished and celebrate all contributions to your own self care. Hang in there and make sure your bases are covered: personal hygiene, your space is clean, your food is good, and then fitness. When things get stressful it can be natural to help everyone first; make sure you get your own oxygen mask on each day before getting into worrying about others and the stresses of unemployment (easier said than done). You can build yourself back up and break out and every tiny step forward helps.
                    Thank you - I recently created a check-in thread which I believe helps to keep me active at least, which keeps some endorphins going for a little while.

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                      #11
                      I‘m a writer myself and I published some things as Ebooks. It costs you nothing but you can make money with it. You get 50-70% of every sale. I don‘t know who offers this service in South Africa, in Germany it‘s bookrix.com, neobooks or amazon.

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                        #12
                        I am sorry to hear that. I am currently unemployed, too, but I still have enough fund. Glad to hear that you are a writer. That means you can at least get some freelance work, right? I am basically a freelancer, too.

                        Are you interested in writing copy? I have heard that it's where writers make a lot of money.

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                          #13
                          And something else from writer to writer: Consider it as work. Schedule it, plan it. J.K. Rowling was unemployed when she wrote Harry Potter.

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                              #15
                              Originally posted by kandy View Post
                              I am sorry to hear that. I am currently unemployed, too, but I still have enough fund. Glad to hear that you are a writer. That means you can at least get some freelance work, right? I am basically a freelancer, too.

                              Are you interested in writing copy? I have heard that it's where writers make a lot of money.
                              I'm not sure if I'm too good with copy writing but I have considered it.

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