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    Tl;Dr? The weather can't decide whether it's sunny or snowing.

    I never know how to start these kinds of things, though I suppose, I know I'm not alone in that. Basically, I'm here to get fitter. Well... to get fit again, I should say. At this current moment in time, I can barely walk around the block so my bar for 'fitter' is pretty low.

    Having struggled with some stuff I don't want to get into right away, I've found that I'm sick of hating myself and that it's time to work on how I see myself in my own head as well as how I physically look. Voicing this to a friend got them to show me Darebee and thus, led me here.

    I've set my targets pretty low - Foundation Light every day of the week, as the program dictates, and then two bonus days where I do another challenge. I'm aiming for consistency, not miracles. I'm notoriously bad at keeping up with any kind of habit (unless it's eating???) so I guess I just need to Do The Thing. It's not a pass or fail system, no one's grading me, all I need to do it make a bit of difference in my life.

    Exercise habit first, then we'll work on the food issue. It's hard getting groceries in quarantine so even though I usually try the diet before the exercise, this time I can't do that.

    So, for the next few weeks, my exercise plan looks like this:

    Monday: Foundation Light
    Tuesday: Foundation Light
    Wednesday: Foundation Light + bonus activity
    Thursday: Foundation Light
    Friday: Foundation Light
    Saturday: Foundation Light + bonus activity
    Sunday: Foundation Light



    After Foundation Light, I want to do the Foundation program, the Zero Hero or Hero's Journey.
    In the future, I'm looking to doing: Age of Pandora, Carbon and Dust, Fighter's Codex, Athena's Playbook, Avatar Upgrade and Military Fit. First, I need to get moving.

    #2
    Cheering you on, one step at a time!



    After foundation light (and probably foundation, for health and safety), I'm thinking Hero's Journey myself - all of them sound so good though!

    Good for your friend, glad they showed you the way to us! As a fellow hoarder of that nasty self-hate, I'm here to root for you! You're amazing and you got this!

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      #3
      Originally posted by Coreander View Post
      Cheering you on, one step at a time!
      Thank you so much for the welcome! And the sage advice - one step at a time is exactly right. I'm too inclined to try to run before I can walk, my perfectionism needs to chill.

      Hero's Journey sounds really cool. Have you thought about which weapon you'd pick? As an ex-martial artist, I'm leaning towards the Red Ribbon.

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        #4
        Welcome to the hive

        We will all be here to support you and you can share whatever you feel comfortable sharing. There are a lot of others who are struggling with life, self love, eating and/or mental illness as well (me being one of those) and the support you get here is amazing.
        I hope you enjoy your time here

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          #5
          Good on you for starting at all!

          Keeping up with habits is always pretty hard. The things I found for my self that help me keep it up are friends doing the same and making a game of it. That‘s why I love age of pandora so much. I also love to use those habit tracking apps where you build houses or plant flowers by checking things off your daily list. Lately I use one called Habitica which has an RPG setup where you create your character and can do bossfights with your friends.
          I don‘t know if any of that would help you but maybe it’s worth checking out.
          Now keep up the good work and make yourself proud!!

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            #6
            Welcome

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              #7
              Welcome

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                #8
                Welcome to the Hive - we are here to support you and cheer you on!!

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                  #9
                  Originally posted by MollyStorm View Post
                  Have you thought about which weapon you'd pick? As an ex-martial artist, I'm leaning towards the Red Ribbon.
                  I am incredibly tempted to learn martial arts of some sort (the grace and smooth movement of like a tai chi or a softer whatever) so lean towards the ribbon, though I'm also wanting to build up endurance and whatnot so also would consider the bow. Honestly, I'm not sure.

                  We'll see when we get there!

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                    #10
                    So yesterday didn't go as planned.
                    I got up fairly early, checked in here, got dressed and tried to psych myself up a bit to work out. All I actually did was nervously play Sunless Sea and convince myself I'd work out later.'
                    '
                    Later' is my fatality.
                    'Later' is my never.
                    I find that if I plan to do something 'later' I forget or I get distracted or something happens - like yesterday when I ran out of time because my bf came home from work and I didn't want to work out with my bf in the house. I don't know what the problem is with that - with working out in front of someone who isn't also working out. I feel a bit of an idiot but there's more to it than that I'm sure...

                    I haven't worked out today yet because my bf's been home all day - weekend - and I keep making excuses for not working out in the bedroom (we have a very small house and the bedroom is for bedtime??).

                    But on the plus side, I'm eating a little better today - chicken breast and rice for lunch, then it's RPG night which means a quickish dinner. Something microwavable, probably, since my stepdad dropped off some quarantine supplies yesterday.

                    Thank you all for your lovely welcomes! It really means a lot to get responses from people so quickly. I'm happy to be here.

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                      #11
                      It is good to be accountable to days where you don't make it, because accountability is a big part of what makes a person successful in this journey.

                      I kind of understand your hesitation about working out in front of someone, it does feel awkward. Eventually it goes away when you realize that exercise is a reward for yourself.

                      Next time try to tell yourself that you won't do the whole 3 sets, but that you want to do 1 set at least to keep your streak alive. When you get started you probably won't stop.

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                        #12
                        Originally posted by MollyStorm View Post
                        working out in front of someone who isn't also working out.
                        I HAVE THIS SAME PROBLEM. My husband is currently working from home so I'm finding times he's asleep or out to work out - I owned up to it, told him I was all embarrassed for no reason at all. True to form he didn't judge, told me it was ok, but turns a blind eye to my "sneaking around" to do it. I'm working on it, I'm hoping it won't matter eventually.

                        Even a day off isn't a day back - you're still pushing forward! You got this!



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                          #13
                          I didn‘t want to work out with my bf in the house
                          I know that feeling, especially when he doesn’t work out at the same time.
                          you could try to ask him to join you on it. Even if he is just doing a really short routine , at least you wouldn’t be alone, maybe that would make things easier?

                          Or try to find some workouts that can be easily done in hiding, small things like foot flexes or clench/unclench kind of things. That way you could still do something even if it doesn’t line up with your usual routine. But it is so much easier to keep going by doing something everyday than doing something big and then nothing every other day.


                          RPG night sound great! What kind of story are you doing there - and how does your party work during quarantine? Is it just you and your bf or do you have friends over via skype?

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                            #14
                            Originally posted by MollyStorm View Post
                            So yesterday didn't go as planned.

                            I find that if I plan to do something 'later' I forget or I get distracted or something happens - like yesterday when I ran out of time because my bf came home from work and I didn't want to work out with my bf in the house. I don't know what the problem is with that - with working out in front of someone who isn't also working out. I feel a bit of an idiot but there's more to it than that I'm sure...

                            I haven't worked out today yet because my bf's been home all day - weekend - and I keep making excuses for not working out in the bedroom (we have a very small house and the bedroom is for bedtime??).


                            Hi Molly!! You got this girl!! Hang in there!!!
                            It's alright to feel that way! But it's not alright to give in to it! ASK YOURSELF THE QUESTION:

                            Why does your bf make you feel so uncomfortable doing something you are reaaallly wishing & striving for ? Isn't he supposed to be CHEERING YOU ON & SUPPORTING YOUR GOAL??!!??!?
                            Does he work out?
                            Does he make fun of people who do? What you are expressing sounds like fear, the fear of being yourself, the fear of BEING JUDGED/HAVING TO JUSTIFY YOUR CHOICES
                            What are you afraid he'll say, or think of you? Is it something degrading/depressing/counter-productive?

                            If you already know how he's going to react, then whether you work out or not DOESN'T MAKE A DIFFERENCE, you KNOW the outcome in advance.
                            So all that's happening here is you're losing 1 more day to reach your goal.


                            I say this cos I've been there! When our child was born my sexy mermaid-shaped body was over 233lbs for 5"6in, I couldn't see my feet over my belly, my back hurt so much. I was slipping into depression. I started to work on my body. It was almost nothing but I felt more positive afterwards, lighter-hearted.
                            If my bf happened to be there, snide comments would start dropping ..."Think you're Scarlett Johansen or something, yeah, dream on"/ "Anyway I prefer you obese so guys won't look at you"...
                            At first it totally shattered my self-esteem, I felt lost, confused, couldn't move.
                            Until the day I just had had enough. I worked out. I didn't listen or look up. I pretended to myself that he wasn't there. I listened to motivational podcasts. I smiled at him & acted normal. I started shedding grams, then the kgs, my mind was getting stronger, I was sleeping better...

                            And the best part? The comments stopped (he'd just walk out the door/ hole up in another room/ignore me) & I eventually shed over 30kg ...and met my new, fit, working out boyfriend.

                            I suggest you take matters into your own hands, take back your freewill, work out in front of him & CHALLENGE HIM to WORK out too (even if you know he'll refuse)!!!
                            When he refuses or criticizes, act like you don't GIVE A DAMN WHAT ANYBODY ELSE THINKS, use that pressure as fuel to motivate you, cry in the shower later if you have to,but don't stop, don't put your life on hold!

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                              #15
                              Thanks for everyone's amazing, supportive replies!!
                              I had a shopping day today, so we made sure to get as much healthy stuff as possible and I'll be working out this evening. I'm looking forward to it, everyone's replies are really motivating. It's nice to have such a great community.

                              Originally posted by CountDooku View Post

                              RPG night sound great! What kind of story are you doing there - and how does your party work during quarantine? Is it just you and your bf or do you have friends over via skype?
                              We use Discord for games, there's an IM feature and a group chat feature as well as PMs and such. It's quite versatile. At the moment we have a Warcraft themed Dungeons and Dragons game going and we have a Legend of the Five Rings game going too. Outside of quarantine, I go to a weekly RPG club on Sundays

                              Originally posted by GoGoGirl01 View Post

                              Why does your bf make you feel so uncomfortable doing something you are reaaallly wishing & striving for ? Isn't he supposed to be CHEERING YOU ON & SUPPORTING YOUR GOAL??!!??!?
                              Does he work out?
                              Does he make fun of people who do? What you are expressing sounds like fear, the fear of being yourself, the fear of BEING JUDGED/HAVING TO JUSTIFY YOUR CHOICES
                              What are you afraid he'll say, or think of you? Is it something degrading/depressing/counter-productive?

                              It's purely that I feel like an idiot, fortunately he's supportive of what I want and doesn't comment on it or make fun of me. In fact, I know, if I work out, he's likely to join me. We had a funny moment a couple of months ago when I was getting up early to do yoga alone, that he confessed he'd been doing weights when I was out of the house.

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