Believe In Your Better Self!

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  • Believe In Your Better Self!

    It's been some time since any of us have had the time to update the Team Blog and because I tend to write a lot anyway as part of my day job the task has fallen, again, to me. From the outside looking in, any of us, most of us appear aloof perhaps, inscrutable. Our heads clear and our actions methodical. Some kind of plan working out for us. Usually, inside our heads there is the usual sense of confusion, turmoil alongside a sense of fatigue and the belief that we are somehow failing all the time.

    I get that a lot. Most days actually. And I have developed a little mental trick for combatting it. I talk myself into a better frame of mind that will help me train when I really want to stay in bed an extra hour, work when I really feel tired and dispirited and want to just hide from everybody and face the challenges that each day brings without feeling that I am losing ground all the time. David Bohm was a trailblazing theoretical physicist who contributed some pretty amazing ideas to Quantum Mechanics. In 1977 he gave a Berkeley lecture during which he delivered the following:

    Reality is what we take to be true. What we take to be true is what we believe. What we believe is based upon our perceptions. What we perceive depends on what we look for. What we look for depends on what we think. What we think depends on what we perceive. What we perceive determines what we believe. What we believe determines what we take to be true. What we take to be true is our reality.
    I have had it with me in one form or another (currently saved on Google Keep on my phone) for a really long time. It reminds me that really I need to believe in my own capability but it also has taught me to look for the best in others and try and think the best of others. In retrospect it seems that finding myself in The Hive knowing so many other Bees was no accident. I hope it helps you too, especially when you're feeling low.


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    Damer this is important for all of us to read, every day. We need to remind ourselves of these positive thoughts. It is so important. Unfortunately, being an adult is learning how to combat negative thinking.

    I will add more of my thoughts to this later, but I had to just write something, right now. Thank you.

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      Especially bc, we tend to live up (down) to the expectations of ppl we care about the opinions of. And we all care about our own opinions. So negatively towards self can really spiral quickly.

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      • #4
        So.... there is no spoon?



        Originally posted by 'rin View Post
        Especially bc, we tend to live up (down) to the expectations of ppl we care about the opinions of. And we all care about our own opinions. So negatively towards self can really spiral quickly.
        Yep. This is something I've been struggling with lately. While searching for the meaning of life (yes, dramatic, I know) at some point I came to the conclusion that I as myself don't matter, what matters is the impact and influence I have on others. This is something I do still believe in - we cannot know for sure if there is an afterlife, and even if there is one the chance that the things we gather on this world will come with us to the other side is so tiny it is not worth considering. So, the only thing we can do to have a meaningful impact is to try and make the world a better place for those who come after us. (feel free to disagree, really any reason that makes your life worth living is a good one)

        There is a massive caveat though - I struggle with depression. When I am deep in the pits of hell (as I've started calling them), it becomes increasingly difficult to find a way to climb out of them, because I have pushed this mentality so far that my life does not matter to me anymore and basically am just there for others (It's a bit exaggerated of course, if that was entirely the case I would have joined a nun's order or something and not be fighting to pursue a career like I am doing now). So why keep living if taking away my life could mean making space for others who deserve if far more than I do?

        And then it hit me that, if I can't even rely on me to take care of myself, who else can? And who else can I rely on?

        So now I'm working towards fixing that.
        I'm fine at the moment by the way, but my thought process can turn pretty dark when the demon strikes.

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        • #5
          Thanks Damer !!! You and your articles continue to inspire me!

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